RED ALERT!!!! #2... (aka: Oh my God... this could happen)!
Mr. D. and I will be driving to "small town five hours away" on Friday night to meet birthmom in person at 10 AM on Saturday morning.
WHAT??? Yep... it is true...
I am FREAKING OUT!
So this is not at all how my agency usually works... but two things have lined up... We expressed an interest in open adoption and this birthmom liked our bio and specifically asked if we were willing to meet her and willing to be open. So of course we said yes!
I spoke with birthmom on the phone while she was at the agency today... sounded sweet... bad home life... feels her home environment/ family situation is not healthy for a child, has aspirations to attend college in the fall and to become a nurse. I stumbled so much when I talked to her... I was so nervous and scared that she wouldn't like me. M (the adoption attorney) later told me that I did fine and that birthmom seemed happy with the conversation. I am just glad that she still wants to meet me after our awkward conversation.
Here is what we know... birthmom is 18, Caucasian, brown hair, blue eyes, 5'6" and due April 10. She has had prenatal care and had an adoption plan set up with another family (not with my agency) and it suddenly fell through (apparently the adoptive dad decided that he was to old for an infant). Birthfather is unknown.
We will leave here on Friday after school to head to "small town 5 hours away". We are planning to stay the night in town and then meet at the agency at 10 AM. Please pray that if this is the child God has planned for us that doors will open quickly and easily and if not those doors would shut. I am praying for clarity more than ever before... and strength... and courage.. and peace.
posted by Mrs. D. @ 2/02/2010 07:03:00 PM
44 Comments:
What wonderful news! I will be hoping and praying that it all happens as it should on Friday!
How exciting! It's so great you have the opportunity to meet her before the baby is born. I'd love to have an open adoption like that. I hope things go smoothly and are straight forward which every way things go. You're so close now. I'm so happy for you.
Best of luck! It is always so nerve wreckin talking to birth mom but you will do great just be you!
Such wonderful news! But is someone from the agency going to accompany you? Or have they arranged for a social worker or someone else to help with the first meeting? I think that's pretty standard for places that facilitate open adoptions and you might want to ask your place about it. It would be nice to have a professional along if there are any awkward moments that need to be diffused (not that there will be of course).
Totally got the chills reading your last post - this is it, I can feel it!
Jen
That is awesome!! I could not be happier for you or praying harder that you are almost there!!
Sounds a lot like our situation...K was only 18 too. BEST OF LUCK! YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS! Yah! Sorry to tell you this...but this is ALL YOU WILL THINK ABOUT UNTIL THEN....;-)....We only had to wait one day to meet K and that drove me nuts.
Oh my gosh that is so awesome!!!! Oh I can imagine the nerves... The excitement... The hope that your dreams are coming true!!! :-) Praying for your baby girl!!!!
wow, the chills I got reading that. Like LOVE , sometimes I think that in our darkest hours we find light...when we need it most, when we are sure we might never see it.
This is what I am praying for you...for LIGHT.
HUGS and LOVE ..xo
That is absolutely wonderful and you will definitely be in my prayers. I can't believe after all this time waiting, things are starting to finally happen!!! EEEK! =)
That is absolutely wonderful and you will definitely be in my prayers. I can't believe after all this time waiting, things are starting to finally happen!!! EEEK! =)
De-lurking here to say I'm happy for you and got my fingers crossed for you guys!!
That is FABULOUS! As a birthmom from an open adoption, just wanted to let you know that she is as nervous as you are to meet. She sounds very mature and responsible, making this decision for the right reasons. She sounds like me, 14 years ago, really, and our open adoption is still unbelievably wonderful! Email me if you have any specific questions or if you'd like to talk to M's mom about her side of our open adoption. We'll be praying for you!
Lady, I may pee my pants from excitement for you! I'm so so SO happy! Continuing the prayers that this will all work out!
I'm not uncrossing my fingers for you guys until I hear the good news! Best of luck, hope the situation is absolutely perfect.
Praying for you!
Great news. I hope your meeting goes well.
Oh good luck good luck good luck!!!!! I hope this amazing turn of events ends up exactly where it should - you and your husband with a beautiful baby girl in your arms! Good luck!!!!!
More praying!! Please God let this little baby be the one. Please, God, please.
And here's a *sign*!! My word verification for this comment? "Congrat"!!!!
Ahhh I gasped to see you had another update so soon... I will definitely be praying for all 3 of you! :)
I am so freaking excited for you!!!! I cannot wait for an update. You simply must update as soon as you leave the meeting with her and let us know how it went. I am still praying and hoping and crossing everything!
I am finally de-lurking to say OH MY GOD!! I am so excited for you!!! I have never been so excited for a total stranger before! :)
Best wishes in finally finding your daughter. You will be in our prayers! Can't wait to hear your update :)
Christie
Jamie, another one of your lurkers popping in to say I am tearing up with excitement for you. I will be praying for you and the birthmom and Mr. D and the wee babe that everything goes well...
OOOOOOHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I am so, so excited to read this!!! I pray often for your family and this is just wonderful! Crossing everything!!!
Eee!! So exciting!!
This is SO great!! I'm praying. Can't wait to hear the update!!!
We're all going to be waiting in suspense for the update this weekend! So, so exciting! Yiiiiipppppeeeee! Keeping my fingers crossed!
Jamie - so exciting! I've been cheering you on for a long time and you have my prayers! Best of luck to you and Mr. D
OH MY WORD. . .
This is so exciting! I will be praying, hoping, and just DYING to hear an update when you have the time!
Here from LFCA -
How exciting! I'll be praying that everything goes smoothly for you!
How exciting!! And just a little bit frightening, I imagine. All the best wishes in the world. Please post an update after your meeting so we can read about it?
WOWEEEE!!!! That is BRILLIANT news!!! We will so be thinking of you and Hubby Dearest - what a momentous meeting. Many happy warm wishes being sent your way!!! (We have been there, and totally understand the excitement and trepidation that you're experiencing!) SOOOO enormous!
Hello from LFCA! Fantastic news for you guys!!! Will pray that things go smoothly & that you have the peace & clarity you need to know whether this is the child for you!
Wow, going to delurk for this wonderful news!
Best of luck and hoping for a great meeting.
Annie
Are we approaching that inevitable happy ending I've warned you about?!
You'll be in my thoughts! I hope it works out for you!!
OMG I am soooo effing thrilled for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keeping my fingers crossed and will be checking in with you!!!!!!!!! ARGGHHHHHHHHHH
So exciting. Prayers for everyone.
Absolutely wonderful to finally see these words and know there are even better ones to soon follow...praying this is the one meant for your arms, your heart.
After a horrible day at work after a lousy week at work, I'm loving your life-changing, fabulous news!
Wishing you and Mr. D, all the best!
OH MY GOSHHHHHHHHHH!
I am *so* excited for you!!!!!
I think it's really amazing that you and the birth mother are having an open adoption. You guys will be great parents =)
Any news???? I've been waiting all day! It's about to kill me!
!!!!!!!!!! So excited! Can't wait so hear how things went!
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